Unfortunately, I know way too many people that are mourning a loved one, a relationship, a way of life. I hate to see people hurting, so I thought that it was time to turn to the Bible for some guidance. There are many emotions associated with grief when a loved one passes on, when you lose a relationship or even a way of life. And the main problem with those emotions is dealing with them. This is not an organized list of ways to deal with your emotions. There is no order. Emotions get messy and are completely normal. It’s okay to feel what whatever it is that you feel. Grief is an experience that effects a person mentally, physically, and Spiritually, completely consuming a person’s entire self. Don’t try to avoid this experience, as it will sneak up on you when you least expect it. It will take over and leave you with no control. So you can either accept it, feel it, deal with it in your control. Or you can let it control you and that, I can promise you won’t be pretty!
Only God can provide the Spiritual guidance and comfort that you need during grief. Dr. Bob Kellemen defines comfort as: “comfort experiences the presence of God in the presence of suffering – a presence that empowers you to survive scars and plant seeds of hope that we will yet thrive”. We need to survive his experience, having been further conformed to the image and likeness of Jesus Christ.
Romans 8:28 & 29
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
You need to refuse to allow your feelings to lead you through life’s path that God has for you. As we are told in Romans 12:2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Over time we need to find a new perspective on our loss, easing our suffering by meditating on God’s Word. Here are some other verses that may be helpful to you:
There are a lot of Bible verses to find the comfort of God during your days of suffering. But it’s time to find hope again and start really living your life again. Here are some other things that you can do to help ease the pain of loss.
1. Talk to someone who cares. Tell them how you’re feeling.
2. Listen to soul soothing music. What ever kind brings you peace is good.
3. Get out the photo albums. Relive the good times. Remember the sad ones too.
4. Have deep conversations with God.
5. Expect that some days will be worse than others, but this too shall pass.
Remember what it says in Revelations 21:4
And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
One day soon, Jesus will return and we will go home with Him. We will be free of pain and sorrow. There will be no more death and illness. There will be no more reason to cry unless it tears of joy at the pure beauty and all-consuming absolute true love of God.
Even in the Bible there are stories of terrible loss, human suffering, and triumph. Just like those in the Bible, we suffer terrible loss, but we need to maintain and deepen our faith in God. God is faithful to those who suffer. We have to keep reminding ourselves of that and strengthen our faithfulness in Him. I pray this is a Blessing to all who are hurting. God Bless!